ENDURING THE UPS AND DOWNS OF A MICHIGAN DIVORCE

The saying goes something like this: “The only way out is through.” Truer words were never spoken when it comes to a Michigan divorce. It can feel as though it will never end, but rest assured, there is an end. Enduring the ups and downs of the divorce process may seem like an insurmountable task some days, and simple actions can help to get through it.

It can be easy to get lost in the turmoil that surrounds dividing property, figuring out custody arrangements and setting up two separate households. The divorce process is only temporary. Remembering that and focusing on what the future should look like could help.

Not only does this provide a positive focus, but it could also simplify settlement negotiations. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong and the urge for retribution, the energies of the parties could be focused on ensuring that each of them works toward an equitable settlement. Many Michigan residents tend to forget to take care of themselves through the process.

After all, from the moment the divorce was announced and filed, each party quit having to be responsible to the other for their day-to-day lives. Of course, if the parties are parents, they will always have that connection and mutual responsibility. However, so long as each party’s personal choices do not adversely affect the children, the other party no longer has the right to any input in how the other lives.

Embracing this newly discovered freedom can help the parties maintain their sanity through an undoubtedly tumultuous process. Once the terms of the divorce settlement and parenting plan are ironed out, the settlement can be executed and presented to the court. Once the divorce is completed, the parties are free to move forward to their own futures.

Source: The Huffington Post, “5 Tips to Keeping Your Sanity in the Divorce Process“, Debbie Burgin, June 20, 2014