Many Michigan couples are left wondering what to do next once they decide to end their marriage. At the same time the parties are grieving for the loss of their relationship, they have to focus on getting through the divorce proceedings. Some actions can make this process go more smoothly.
A sense of loss is inevitable when a marriage ends, and it is necessary to grieve for that loss. However, the grieving process can easily paralyze an individual to the point that it is difficult to move forward with the divorce. Refusing to move ahead will not necessarily keep the divorce from happening. Therefore, it is important to make a conscious effort to stop looking back and start thinking about the future.
To that end, working together to negotiate a divorce settlement that leaves both parties satisfied that they were treated fairly can help both parties leave the marriage and begin a new life. Divorce mediation allows the couple to control what happens to their assets, liabilities and children. This ordinarily gives the parties the feeling they are invested in their separate futures. No one would pretend the process is always easy, but it can be more rewarding than allowing a Michigan judge to make decisions that the parties would not have agreed to on their own.
Another benefit of an amicable divorce that does not heavily involve the court is that the parties can take all the time they need to fully understand what they are getting — and giving up — in the divorce settlement. Having a full understanding of what is going on is vital to giving each individual the sense of control he or she needs. Then, when the process is complete, it may be possible to part ways not quite as friends, but certainly not as enemies.
Source: The Huffington Post, 10 Things to Remember When You are Getting a Divorce, Jim Halfens, Feb. 25, 2014