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When friends and family hear that a Michigan couple is ending their marriage, they tend to offer well-meaning — though often unsolicited — advice. Nevertheless, every situation is unique, and what worked for one person may not work for someone else. Both parties may benefit from taking a step back and looking at their own situation in order to do what is best for them without necessarily making comparisons to someone else’s marriage or divorce.
There is nothing wrong with ending a marriage that is not working. Many people think it would be better not to divorce for the sake of their children. However, it often turns out that the parties make better parents apart than they did as a couple. Children no longer feel the tension or hear the arguments that may have been pervasive when the parties were together. Many Michigan parents maintain a cordial relationship with their ex-spouse, which ultimately makes the children happier.
Sometimes, happiness may seem like some forgotten emotion during the divorce proceedings. The individuals may benefit from remembering that their lives will not always be turned upside down. Once a divorce settlement is negotiated and the paperwork is finalized, both parties can settle into their new lives. The process could be likened to riding a roller coaster — there will be ups and downs, but eventually, the ride smooths out.
One thing that could make the divorce easier is making the conscious decision to work together to get through the process amicably. A commitment to be fair to each other could make things go smoother and set the tone for a post-divorce relationship. Just because the parties’ relationship did not work while married does not mean it cannot work in divorce.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Getting Divorced ‘Doesn’t Mean You Failed’ And Other Things You Need To Hear Post-Split“, , April 14, 2014